Having a mental health condition can have a huge impact on your day to day life.
There seems to be this assumption that if you can’t do certain tasks, then you’re not a “successful adult” and you’re failing at life. But when you struggle with conditions like anxiety or depression, it can make day to day
tasks almost impossible.
I remember when I was growing up, I’d get so frustrated and angry with myself because I couldn’t do some of the things that everyone else could. No one spoke about mental health back then, it was almost a taboo subject, so I didn’t know why I struggled so much. I just assumed there was something wrong with me; a mindset I’m still struggling to get rid of over 20 years later.
Luckily I was diagnosed with social anxiety, depression and autism a few years ago and that’s gone a long way to helping me accept myself the way I am. Just because I struggle with some things in life, doesn’t mean my life isn’t successful. If anything it makes my achievements even better because of how much I’ve struggled to
I’ve just graduated university with a first class honours degree and set up my own business, two things I’m extremely proud of as I never thought I’d be able to do either! But these are a few of the basic things I struggle with in my day to day life…
Using/Answering The Phone
I’ve always had a problem with using phones, to the point where when I was forced to work in admin for a few months I would actually have panic attacks every time the phone rang.
One of the main things that I hate is that I’ve no warning that the phone is going to ring, so I don’t have time to prepare; something that I desperately need as an autistic person. It not only limits things like the jobs I can do, but it also makes getting appointments stressful as hell.
Apparently its not acceptable at 25 years old to get your mum to phone up for you!
Travelling somewhere new I’ve struggled with anxiety while travelling for as long as I can remember, even when its somewhere I go every day like university. I can’t help but worry about things like what if the train is cancelled? What if it’s so busy that I can’t get off at my stop? What if I’m actually on the wrong train, even though I’ve
heard to conductor say its calling at my stop at least 3 times…
You get the drift!
It’s so draining to have thoughts like that running through my head from the moment I step out of the house, to the moment I get back in. I usually end up needing to have a nap and self care time after I’ve been out, even if its only been a quick trip into town to get some shopping.
Pitching for Work
As a freelancer it’s completely up to me to find work. Sure there are times when people reach out to me asking me to write for them, but those cases are few and far between unfortunately.
So I need to be constantly sending out pitch emails to brands and people I’m interested in collaborating with; which is where the problems start. My autism makes communication difficult at the best of times, but when it’s in a professional capacity the anxiety can be crippling. I’ve sent out a few pitches since going self employed, and each one has given me a meltdown/panic attack that’s left me unable to get any work done for the new few hours.
Not the best for productivity levels!
No matter how many times I go to the same place and order the same food, you can guarantee I’ll freak out the second the waiter turns up and asks me if I’m ready to order. I have to keep repeating what I want in my head over and over again, and if they interrupt me while I’m speaking then I end up forgetting the whole order!
Mental health conditions can affect everyone’s lives differently; so try to be kind and understanding to everyone you meet, as you never know what they’re going through.
This article was written by Jade Marie